It’s no secret that there are many people who are in a relationship at this point in their life. Whether it’s a short-term relationship or something bigger, there are numerous people in some kind of relationship with someone. I even have a few friends that are married or getting married soon. Being in a relationship is a serious commitment, so while I don’t have any dating experience whatsoever, there are a few things I want to bring up.

First of all, be sure you’re looking for the right person. The last thing you want is to enter a relationship with someone who has many different interests and preferences that it causes many clashes in your relationship. Instead, look for someone who shares your likes and dislikes, your hobbies and passions. That will make for a smoother relationship.

Also, on that note, if you’re not too good with asking somebody out, don’t preoccupy yourself with any rejections you may get. If someone politely rejects you, they have a good reason and it should be respected. If you happen to be unlucky enough to be insulted upon your rejection, don’t let it get to you. If that’s their attitude, you probably wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with them anyway. Keep your head held high as you search for the right match.

Another important thing to consider is the future of your relationship. The reason many people end up breaking up is because the initial “butterflies” don’t last very long or because life eventually calls them to different paths that don’t line up. Unless you’re specifically looking for a short-term relationship, you’re probably not looking forward to the possibility of breaking up. Therefore, I would highly encourage you to consider where your relationship might go in the long run.

That being said, I would also advise against being a ladies man (or vice versa) and going for numerous brief relationships that don’t really go anywhere. Those tend to lead to the most heartbreaks and complications (especially if there is sex involved). I am a firm believer in long-term relationships. Therefore, I highly encourage that you put your focus on long-term benefits.

Something else that’s very important to remember is how much commitment it takes to be in a relationship, especially if you’re making the full commitment and planning to get married. While I have nothing against people making such a big decision while still in college, don’t just jump in with both feet without thinking it through. Remember that you still have academic commitments that need your attention. The last thing you need is to be overloaded with school, planning a wedding and possibly even work commitments at the same time. That kind of pressure can be very stressful and overwhelming.

In general, just be smart when considering entering a relationship. If you truly want your relationship to be meaningful and strong, keep these things in mind.