Do you consider yourself a well-mannered person? Well, maybe you are at home, but what if you are visiting another country? People often use body language when talking. Gestures have become significant in the world of communication. Do they have the same meaning worldwide?

I think everybody remembers Georges H. W. Bush’s visit to Australia in the 1990s, when he greeted the crowd by showing “peace” with his two fingers. It made a lot of noise in mass media. But what was the big deal? Sometimes what you think you are saying does not necessarily mean what you really do. Here comes the awkward moment. He officially insulted the whole population of Australia, just because his palm was facing inwards instead of outwards.

Last year, I was invited to an American Christmas party. It was exciting for me since I have never attended one. In the Ukraine, Christmas is usually on Jan. 7. People go to church and have a nice dinner surrounded with their family and closest friends afterwards. It is not a huge holiday as it is over here. 

However, celebrating the New Year is a huge holiday in the countries of the former Soviet Union. Long story short, everybody brought some dishes to the party, which was nice. In the Ukraine and Armenia, when we visit someone, we cannot go there empty-handed. 

Anyway, I enjoyed the Christmas party a lot; it was so much fun! What was odd for me is that at the end, when everybody was about to leave, people started taking back their food. In the Ukraine and Armenia, it is considered to be rude to take back whatever you brought to the host, unless the host decides to give you, as you say, a “doggy bag.”

Two years ago, my best friend had a chance to go to England for several weeks. She was supposed to live with a host family. She bought a bouquet of white lilies as a sign of hospitality when she went to their house for the first time. So my friend, proud of herself, presented flowers to the household. You could tell right away that those lilies did not meet that lady’s expectations. 

On the top of everything, she handed them with her left hand (she is a left-handed person). The lady was shocked; her face was red, her eyes were burning and anger was eating her up. The woman pointed her to the door. Isn’t it bizarre? Later on, it turned out that in England white lilies mean death. The left hand is considered as unclean, because in some countries toilet paper is still a luxury.

Sometimes our most commonly used gestures have totally opposite meaning in other cultures. For example, the “okay” sign, known as a fine feeling, an agreement or comfort, can have another connotation. For example, in the Ukraine and other former Soviet Union countries, it meant zero. I remember using it a lot during my math class at preschool, which was a while ago. However, right now with the advanced technology and globalization it is the same “okay.” In Turkey, believe it or not, it means that someone is homosexual. Likely, when my sister and I took a bus tour to Armenia through Russia, Turkey and Georgia, we did a research, and we did not misuse it.

Who does not like receiving compliments? But be careful! Some people would think that you are claiming for their belongings. One of my classmates was from Southern Arabia. She often invited us to her place. She was a very genuine host. So whenever we would compliment her, whether it was her accessories, perfumes or any other things, she would say, “You can have it.” And she was insisting. 

One day, I just asked her why she was giving her stuff away. The answer was shocking. She said, “If a person compliments you, it means he/she really wants that item for himself/herself.” As I understood, they cannot give you a refusal, since you are their guest. Eventually, they will present it to you.

Remember, gestures can tell a lot about a person and his/her culture. No matter where you go, the interpretation of gestures will have an impact on you and other people. I think travel is the only thing that money can buy that makes you richer. Remember that every culture is unique and has its history to be learned, rules to be followed and traditions to respect.   

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